Is your Marriage going to make it?

My wife and I recently had the chance to attend a marriage retreat for pastors and pastor's wives. Andrea and I had a great time focusing on relationship for a few days. One of the guest speakers was a trained counselor named Ben Brumley. During his talk, he cited some pretty surprising statistics regarding marriage.  I would love to hear what you think.





1. Average age couples marry

  • MEN:  29
  • WOMEN:  26



2. Does marriage still matter?

  • 65% of adults think marriage is obsolete 
  • 90% of adults get married 



3. Regarding birth order

  • Most successful marriages are those when then female is the oldest of boys and the husband is the youngest of girls 
  • Highest divorce rate is when a firstborn married another firstborn



4. Personal happiness

Personal happiness before marriage usually determines happiness after marriage.





5. Three big factors

If a couple getting married is not currently pregnant, have reasonable employment, and a high school education, they have a 90% staying married.




6. How to almost guarantee a successful marriage.

The couples with a 99% chance of staying together are the couples that pray.



7. Statistically, 75% of marriages fail when one of the partners smoke.



Some of these statistics are pretty shocking.  What do you think? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Aaron is the pastor of Spring of Life, a new church in Portland, Oregon. He's the owner of Amplify Creative.